Advice on dating and mating

[I follow Sri Rohit Arya on Facebook, and I've found his commentary on the human condition one of the best I've ever come across. This post is a reproduction from his wall. Original link here]

This was originally a comment on Rohit Arya SGRA's wall, converted into a post on his advice.
In spite of SGRA's explicit and tacit warnings and caution, many folks seem to conflate red pill advice with game. This post will make an attempt to expound his caution, and present some experiences. The idea is not to preach, nor to amuse. This post is mostly for thin/ skinny/ weak young men who are trying to navigate the world. This post would also be of interest to Aspies( men with Asperger's syndrome/ extreme male brain).

If you are a well built male who is on firm footing, and feel on top of the world- then you can stop reading further. This post is not for you. Like many millions of 80s kids, and as a tall thin man who was brought up under daily moral preaching, middle class monetary ethos(parents sarkari mulazims), a B&W TV and the ever looming corporal punishment for infractions(bad marks, school fights, stealing and lying) I entered the dating market woefully ill prepared.

Parents of that era and societal situation were prisoners of the scarcity mindset. They were and are intensely god fearing, pious Hindus who lived life only to scrimp and save. The said savings were poured into kid's education and marriage. That was the unitary driving force of their lives. To give a solid education and Hindu ethos to their kids. All in middle class flavor. Take the bus, walk to school, no wastage of food, speech, sleep or resources. Gandhian, if you can live with that word. A permanent sermon when I was growing up was-' hard work and sacrifice is the only way to success.'

I was told for long years that boys who don't smoke, drink, behave well and focus all their waking hours on studies <shall> land a nice, susheel, chaste and pretty wife. In fact the prettier the girl; the more her parent's inclination and desire to hitch her to a well educated sanskari non drinker boy. So that was the text which was etched into our slate.
I was told to get a haircut every week, cut my nails every day, stay miles away from the partying, fun loving boys my age as they are the worst company a young man could keep. It was sort of a factory line prepping up a man to be a ramrod straight army officer, doctor, lawyer, engineer or a civil servant. The pinnacle of success as per our parents.

So that was the dumb/ incorrect programming with which I plunged into the the dating pool at 18. The first red pill lesson arrived when in the small, conservative city where I grew up- I saw this curious event. As the board results and JEE/PET/PMT results came out: typical small town girls latched onto and snagged the boys who had cracked IIT! These 'simple' girls knew that an IIT catch is a good investment. That too at a time and place where having held a girl's hand would assure either a severe beating, or being feted as Rambo!

As for the 'not so good' girls at school and later college- they cared zero effs whether the boy had a proper haircut, cut his nails, or smoked. Badder the boy- the more the number of women wanting him. This is where it also (painfully) became evident that most girls don't want a thin guy. Your susheel 'Mr Yogi' is only good as a friend. Men with a broad chest wet panties. There.

From age 18, to the current middle age era. Those female mate selection strategies mentioned above have shown themselves in Indian women so many times that the 'sati-saavitri' drama put forth by any woman only induces eye rolls. And even the 40 something women I cross path with won't let go of claiming their chastity. Which is comical because I see married women swooning when a gorgeous dude with a chest bursting out of a tight T-shirt walks by. It is also evident on dating sites where man after man is posing bare chested, and are getting picked up by well educated women by the hour. All this while decent men wait like losers for a match. It also becomes evident when young guys call me to seek mentoring and counselling and I find that thin guys aren't getting laid. The pattern is hard to miss or deny.

Now, coming back from biological laws of attraction, to everyday wisdom. I hope all young men reading redpill literature, SGRA'S posts, blogs on game do not get it wrong.
As I mentioned to SG, men reading your posts should/ are expected to work towards physical fitness, staying away from intoxicants, cultivating a healthy bank balance and investing in themselves. If you were to read them only with an intention to get laid: you are doing a great disservice to yourself and men trying to help you.

Rather than waste time and money on broads to get laid: buy books, travel, go skydiving, hiking, trekking , buy bikes, ride fast cars, find a guru, find a financial adviser, find a dietician, find a Hindu network and contribute. Go to temples. Do teerths. Climb high mountains to pay your respects at Hindu shrines. Carry heavy bags ( with due advice and training) and challenge yourself. It will not be easy, but there is no other option. You chasing skirts without a big chest, bike, car and confidence with amount to poor ROI.

Being alpha is not about how many women one has bedded. It's imo about being a better version of you, every day. It's about fighting anxiety, depression, nihilism, the desire to reach out for a beer or drink whenever stressed, or lonely.

Bedding woman- In today's world finding action is simply a function of your body shape-size and your willingness to tolerate bs and inane conversations. As Charlie Sheen said- 'you can bed any woman, you just have to throw many dinners, drinks and time her way.' Plus you have to be charming( read vain). Aspies cannot do it. They are not biologically wired to be good listeners. They can't engage in a long drawn conversation, even if sex is on the cards. Accept that reality, and make peace with it. Don't jump headlong to fight hypergamy.
Work on yourself. Women will follow. You might not get quality, but the quantity will never be a challenge. That is not a reflection of your worth. There are extraneous factors such as karma, destiny, providence, luck, fortune, stars, time and space that often determine carnal success. We live in a world which no one could predict. The genie of female sexuality is out of the bottle, and can't be put back in.
Someone recently told me : women are like salt. Most men make the mistake of thinking that women are the meal....

I'll leave you with some goals worth chasing:
1. Net Worth - your net worth(INR lakhs should exceed your age). By age 30- you must have in excess of 30 lakhs. That amount should grow by 10% each year. Find men who can teach you wealth management. Treat them with respect. They are not your pals, but your teachers. We are not Americans- we don't hi our teachers.
2. Weight gain - aim for a BMI of 20. Find strength training coaches for expert advice on exercise and diet.
3. STDs - Stay wary of STDs: Everyone is having sex. Casual or otherwise. Do note that while there is awareness about HIV, other STDs like Herpes are rampant. Around 60% young people in India have herpes. Look up the net.
4. Hinduism - Do not give up on your culture. We proudly worship monkey god, divine pillars, phallic energies and had flying chariots. Those who don't find them to be scientifically true can indulge in their own empirical fantasies. Stay steadfast on your path. There are many spiritual gurus on SM that you can follow and thus find your own answers. We are seekers, and need to find our own path.
5. Drugs - Never do drugs. That includes marijuana.
6. Hookers - Never patronize hookers/ CSWs. Period. Suffer in solo agony but don't take a step on that path.
7. Married women - Don't sleep with married women. There comes a time in every man's life when he will finds that the number of married, divorced and separated women who are sexually interested in him far outweigh available single women (both in quality and quantity). Be worried. Be very very scared. Sleeping with a married woman will open gates of hell. Sooner or later...